One of the most significant things about being at the university is making friends.
These friends, some may be short-term and others long-term depending your level of engagement with them.
However, whereas some friends will make you into a successful person and play a crucial part in your story, others will simply break you.
So as the semester starts, you probably need to do some self-assessment of the people you call your friends, and gauge whether they really need to be in your life. Here is an idea of the kind of friends you should keep around you.
Friends with similar values and a common goal
Diversity is a very important aspect of relating with people just as much as respecting other people’s views and opinions. However, choosing friends that hold similar values to yours will keep you from compromising or being negatively influenced by those that don’t uphold your values and the standards that you govern your life by.
Friends, who share a common goal with you, will push and encourage you whenever you dissuade from a certain target.
Friends who can bring balance in areas where you are weaker
You need friends who you can learn something constructive from especially in your areas of weakness. But if your friends are the only ones learning something from you while you are not learning anything from them, then you have a big problem.
You need to complement each other by tapping into the talents, skills and abilities of those that have expertise in areas that you don’t.
You may be an IT student with amazing innovations but very terrible at marketing, while you may have a friend who is good with words and can market your innovation best, and that is when they come in.
Life is about learning, growing and advancing. It’s always great to have a friend who can recommend a good book or share information with you to help you on your path.
Friends who are hungry for success
Such people are serious about their goals and success. With friends we obviously like to hang out together and share some light moments because like you always need a moment to cool off from the busy schedule.
However, these kinds of friends don’t procrastinate or waste time on unproductive pursuits. They take fast action and get things done.
Friends with a network
If you are really an ambitious person, then you want to surround yourself with people with a connection to something bigger. Always aim higher and associate with people on the next level.
Just because someone is a CEO of a company shouldn’t bar you from associating with them, it engages your reasoning and you begin to view things more maturely and differently from other people.
Make friends who can expose you to greater things, new information and a higher level of living and be the connection to that big job, client, and business opportunity.
However, you can also just choose to keep those friends of yours who only dream and talk about boozing and where the next party will be, after all you might end up a loser anyway.
The author works with the Career Development and Placement Directorate